Thursday, July 19, 2007

Growth Opportunities

The following is an excerpt taken from a little book I am reading called: " God Is In The Small Stuff and it all matters" by Bruce and Stan.

"Someone once said that you'll be the same person 5 years from now as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read. The idea is that you won't grow as a person unless you bring new (and hopefully positive) influences into your life.

The alternative is to do what most people do-nothing. They rarely or never make friends, seek out mentors, or build in the lives of others. They rarely or never read meaningful and enriching books and articles."

They acknowledge that you should keep your "good" old friendships but are also "issuing you a challenge to step up your friendships and your reading habits to the next level."

"Books contain the experiences of people who have failed miserably as well as those who have achieved greatly(both are useful). Good books also present ideas and concepts that stretch beyond our self imposed limits."

I would just like to add that it is both fascinating and exciting to look back and see how various events, connections (sometimes by chance), and choices we make can influence us, thus having a profound affect on the paths we walk and even the destiny of others.

Hopefully, most of the new paths will have come from positive events but adversity can also strengthen one's character, leading to amazing opportunities not yet seen along with enabling you to be better equipped to help someone else.

I wholeheartedly agree with the idea of seeking out those people, hobbies and things that will further enrich your spirit both for personal growth and to give back to others, keeping that ripple of good going forward.


Chrysalis Angel said...

Good post Seaspray. I love the diversity in people. How boring would it be if we were all the same?

I learn new perspectives and read of experiences I'd otherwise never have had the chance to know.

Meeting you on here has enriched my own life, and we have been of help to each other. I've enjoyed meeting my online friends. I learn with every interaction and I enjoy the learning, as one can do on some of these sites.

SeaSpray said...

Thank you for your kind words Angel - you know I feel the same. :)

OCD On A Stick said...

This is a very beneficial posting! I love it!

SeaSpray said...

Hi OCD on a stick - Thank you for your kind words.

After I added my thoughts it occurred to me that I have said it before, probably on this blog too but it really is how I see life. I do like to look back and see how everything has woven together and am in awe at the times I see how new contacts take my life in a new and interesting direction or how they come into my world and maybe it is me who is changing their direction or how they view things for whatever reason.

Also fascinating to me is how someone from my past that was a momentary contact years later for whatever reason becomes a significant part of my life.

I have one story that I wish I could tell about someone who dropped into my life in a most amazing way - by his choice. I would want to ask his permission though. It was in the early 90's and it was because he overheard my conversation with a co-worker who had asked how something was going in my life at that time.

*** This also goes to show you be careful what you say because you never know who is listening! (I never say anything to be ashamed or concerned of/about but it was something important.)

When the room was empty, he came over to me, introduced himself and basically befriended me. He traveled in social/professional circles that I would never be a part of. (well never say never but in this case not likely) He gave me his phone number where I could reach him anywhere in the country at any time (this was before cell phones)and I can still reach him at that number today.

While he couldn't change my circumstances he was the most amazing and supportive person-knowledgeable, kindhearted with a good sense of humor who spent many phone calls listening to me cry and through that giving me hope that it would all work out. He saw a side of me that I would not let anyone see because I put up a strong front for family, friends and co-workers. I knew I had to be strong for them and with God's grace I was.

Meeting this person would seem to be a chance meeting - being at the right place at the right time - but I believe with all my heart that it was a "divine coincidence" destined by God and if I didn't know better I would think he was an angel.

The whole story is interesting and miraculous in many ways. I know some people have problems with the concept of miracles but I lived it - so I know. In my opinion would even have the makings of a good book because so much was involved. A good plot, interesting characters and events with a lot of twists and turns. Heartwarming moments, things that by all human understanding should have gone one way - terribly but because God is greater - the miraculous occurred and good triumphed over evil in the end, leaving even the most cynical men with jaded perspectives -surprised like wide eyed young boys.

SeaSpray said...

I will add a P.S. to the above account of events.

Three months into this situation, while discussing it on the phone I made a comparison of what was happening to David and Goliath and that we all know how that story turned out. He said Mrs. _ _ _ if win it will be because of XYZ not God! I said,"No - it will be because of God." Suffice it to know this guy was someone who was as tough as nails and his language could melt sidewalks but he was never that way with me. He was someone high up who was very difficult to reach but to his expressed amazement and perhaps frustration- because when I called - he always picked up the phone. Ha! One day he said, "Mrs _ _ _ - NO ONE can ever get me on the phone BUT when I DO pick up the phone IT'S YOU! And then of course he'd talk with me and even though he couldn't really do anything at that point - it was more of a verbal hand holding - but it got me through at that moment. (I consider him answering to my calls when he didn't expect to another in a series of "divine coincidences" in my life.)

I am sure he must've been frustrated. first of all - most guys aren't that patient. They want to fix it and move on. Where we women know it can't be fixed right then but just get relief from talking about it with someone we perceive can help or at least understands what is going on.

16 months later Mr Tough Guy called us all excited and wanted to congratulate us. Then before he hung up he said,"Mrs. _ _ _ - YOUR God came through for you- HE REALLY came through for you!"

That was the last time I ever spoke to him. He remembered what I had said about God 16 months later!

It goes to show you that we never know what kind of lasting impressions we make on people or they on us. :)

dragonflyfilly said...

hi seaspray,
i read your comment over at Dr. Deb's and wanted to let you know that i too like blogs that are interactive.

at the moment i am somewhat housebound, so i enjoy the communication that i get here at Blogspot. When i was younger i used to have a lot of "pen pals", so i think of some of my e-mail buddies and blog-buddies as sort of cyber pen-pals.

sometimes it is fun just to read, and then at others, is seems appropriate to leave comments.

i hope you will come over and browse through my blog, and if you don't mind, i will add you to my links once i get around to it.

cheers for now,
pj (at Flamingo's Hideaway)

SeaSpray said...

*** I want to clarify something about my last 2 comments.I was talking about 2 different people.

The 1st gentleman was someone who introduced himself to me while I was at work, befriended me and I still know him today and have access to the same number. We had a running joke about me buying him a cup of coffee. I STILL OWE him that cup of coffee! The truth is that for all our talking, etc. -I got really shy. Once he asked me to go with him down to one of the Universities down below and watch him teach a class about a certain area of his profession. I would have LOVED it! But -feeling shy - I politely declined. I did send him a nice thank you note for his help and support after the challenging time was over. Hmm... maybe I will surprise him and see if he still wants to have a cup of coffee. :)

This post was all about encouraging new friendships and maybe I felt intimidated at some level. Not ever because of anything he ever did but maybe because of my own insecurities. God knows we never ran out of things to discuss! I should make it a goal to do this in August before I go back to work in the fall.

The 2nd guy was someone who was an advocate of sorts for what was going on. He wasn't an advocate but let's just say he was a distant team player in a position of power although he actually couldn't fix anything as it all had to play out.

Not trying to be cryptic. If this were only about me I would be open and glad to share the story because there is a lot to learn from it and so many amazing things happened in spite of the difficulties. However, as I have previously stated- I never give out identifying personal information about anyone else. What I might think is alright they may not - so I don't. Confidentiality is so important in all areas of life not just blogging.

SeaSpray said...

Hi Dragonflyfilly - I agree with you and enjoy the comments too. I think of the comments as cyber post cards coming to my blog. Of course sometimes I leave cyber pamphlets in my comment section or in other blogger's comment section. And they are faster then pen pals!

I am sorry that you are housebound right now. I was out of commission for awhile too and blogging was a great distraction from all of it. Now I am just hooked and it is one of my favorite hobbies!

I will stop over to your blog sometime soon. :)