Monday, November 12, 2007

The Conflicted Patient is November Guest Blogger

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Dr. Dominic Carone, PH.D., author of the MedFriendly blog has recently asked me to write a guest post for his blog. I decided to write a post about myself called "The Conflicted Patient" in which I describe some of my internal struggles relating to the medical professionals as I emotionally project myself from the stretcher to their side of things while simultaneously trying to be "just" a patient.

I have been thoroughly enjoying the Medfriendly blog and highly recommend it as a good read. (It is on my blogroll) Not only is it interesting, informative and fun but it also contains good links as well as it is a good source for medical terminology.

Dr Carone, thank you for inviting me to write a guest post for your blog. I am both honored and pleased to write for you and to be included in your list of esteemed fellow bloggers. Thanks again for the opportunity. :)

12 comments:

Chrysalis Angel said...

That's great Seaspray! I'll have to go and read it now. They've found a gem in you.

Chrysalis Angel said...

Nicely done Seaspray. Wow, he is in my neck of the woods. I think he's the second one I've come across that's near me. Very nice Seaspray. I tell people all the time..you need an advocate for you in the hospital, some "nice" family member or friend that can obtain a blanket or let them know if there is a change for the worse. I am so like you too, bite my lip in pain rather than "bother" anyone.

SeaSpray said...

Thank you Angel. Oh believe me if the pain was that of a kidney stone I'd be begging for big drugs but they would've made sure I had them too. If they just could've given me something to take the edge off I would've been alright, a popsicle but alright. I am totally capable of speaking up for myself but I feel total guilt for bothering them when I know how hard they work and I also don't want to be one of "those" pts which is ironic because since I wasn't proactive it lead to me crumbling and acting just like that. My husband wanted to get them at one point before he fell asleep and I didn't want him to. My nurse was nice but then she also seemed annoyed at times and that is why I started shutting the pump alarm off myself which I know I wasn't supposed to do. Maybe if I was more myself I would've remembered not to move my arm. When I got to my room I set it off again and then I said can't you tape this and that took care of it.

It was surprised to find out they were going to give me morphine when I specifically said don't ever give me morphine or dilauded to the triage and ER nurses. Really, after what I know now I basically introduce myself and say "Hi..I'm SeaSpray..don't ever give me morphine or dilauded.' Ceo, cleaning lady, docs, nurses maintenance...I make sure they all know. ;)

BTW...that little jaunt to the ED cost over 9,000.00. Thank God my regular doc figured out that the whole thing was caused by the procedure,percocet and the fact I hadn't eaten and I avoided all the other stuff. :) The whole thing was surreal. To go from feeling perfectly fine to being that sick and all the stuff that happened. But hey...at least it ended well. :)

In retrospect...I should have been honest with the doctor and told him nicely exactly how I felt and asked for another room if it was possible. 9 hours freezing like that with feeling awful too! If I am cold you can believe it is freezing because I am the type that is always too warm. ha...I've been hot since I was 4! Just my make up. He impressed me as a doc who really listens. I saw him 3 times that night and he was really sweet with me. But what was he to do if "I" am telling him with a smile not to worry I am fine? and asked for another room. I hope I never have to do that in the future but if I do it will be an interesting experiment now that I am more cognizant of this trait that operates in me when in the hospital.

One other example of me doing this -the 1st week I was in the hospital when this all started...they had me in a broken bed that kept deflating and i was then on hard metal in the hip - lumbar area. I could feel it through the drugs and after 3 days did speak up and the nurse must've been busy because she blew it off but then on my last night there a new nurse came in, saw the bed without me saying anything and immediately got me a new bed.

Seriously...the lesson in all of this...speak up. If we don't things will get ignored and I think there are many reasons for that and it is the way it is.

They do say people are better off with a friend/relative looking out for them.

Chrysalis Angel said...

That's right advocates are needed. We aren't ourselves when we are sick enough to go to the hospital.

Medblog Addict said...

Happy One Year blogging anniversary SeaSprout!

I'm gonna go check out your post now.

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Hi Seaspray,
Thanks for visiting my blog and for the comforting words and prayers. I truly appreciate them. I will be reading your post in your guest blog when I come back. Anyway, I pray that the good Lord will heal us both from our individual ailments. Thanks again. God bless and have a wonderful and blessed day.

SeaSpray said...

Hi M.A. - Thank you...it went fast didn't it? :)

Your welcome and thank you Mel. :)

John McElveen said...

WOW! Congrats! Miss ya, Love ya, will catch up with everything and everyone soon!

Looking forward to many more years of suoport, encouragement, laughter, learning, sharing, crying!!!!!

Thanks for being my Friend!!

John

SeaSpray said...

Hey John - Good to see you and glad you are back on line. Younger son just bought himself a laptop and older son ordered something special that his company uses and brought it to his brother tonight. Mine is a dinosaur by comparison. That's ok with me though so long as it doesn't go extinct. ;)

We'll encourage each other and you brought a much needed smile to my face. Thank you :)

I will just say, it hurts to think I have hurt or offended someone and it hurts to be misunderstood which Ironically is what I may have done to the other person in the first place. And if I did hurt that person (the one I respect) then I am genuinely sorry for that. And it hurts to know someone will think less of you just because you don't agree 100%. That is something I don't do. I don't expect or even care if someone agrees with me. We are all different and often have different perceptions. I like them for who they are bit because they fall in line with my belief system. And it hurts to see a person who was rude and condescending get praised. I will probably do a post on this at some point.

John McElveen said...

Looking forward to any and all our Interactions- know you are Loved AND RESPECTED ON THIS END! CHRIST UNITES- DEVIL DIVIDES....HE CAN'T GET BETWEEN US UNLESS WE LET HIM.

and we won't!!!!!!!

JOHN

SeaSpray said...

Awww your sweet John. ...and he evokes yet another smile from SeaSpray. :)

SeaSpray said...

Just want to say that in reference to what was bothering me it was worked out with the other person and I think it was a miscommunication/misunderstanding all the way around and all is well now which makes me very happy because as I said...I respect this person greatly and they are one of my favorites in the blogosphere. :)