I hope I didn't offend any of my male readers in my previous post when in frustration to my husband's "shock and dismay" that we were getting the Christmas tree last night...I vented by generalizing about men's reactions to things when they have KNOWN they will be doing a certain thing... but they don't want to do it when the time comes. I still stand by that observation based on the many males in my life.
And as further proof I just want to say that even on "Everybody Loves Raymond" Ray, his father and his brother would be SHOCKED and resistant to having to do something they had known all along they had to do! Shocked I tell you! And if it was on this show...it must be true! ;)
Furthermore, I am still convinced that this predictable male reaction is something that has been encoded into the Y chromosomes since the beginning of human existence.
Now I do think that women should have the decoder for this behavior in their X chromosomes but I am pretty certain since the males also have an x chromosome they have somehow managed to corrupt the files so that we remain in the dark about this perplexing behavior. That's "my" theory anyway.
Part of Mel's explanation in his comment to my previous post was "They regard home as a place of relaxation and rest and they will fight every attempt to move them away from such a relaxing state." Well that explains why when we were leaving to get the tree last night and son was dragging him out the door I had to pry each of his fingers off of the door frame just so I didn't crush them when slamming the door closed behind us...although...nah I didn't. ;) But I digress.
I also think this is programmed into the Y chromosomes so that they ONLY do this to their wives or other close females in their lives. I have never witnessed this phenomenon in any male to male contacts. "General Patton! UGH! We're doing WHAT???" I rest my case.
Speaking as a female...I can honestly say that we will never act SCHOCKED at having to do something we knew about. I might whine "a little" about something I don't want to do. (OK the ONE exception - I whined with increasing frequency for 4 days at the thought of having a ureteral stent removed in urodocs clinic. It all came out alright in the end. (pun intended) But that is another story.) I usually won't say anything until the day before and I might even sigh and express that I don't want to do something even just before I have to.
BUT...I don't understand the SHOCK factor that men seem to have going on. I know he knows what he has to do. I know he knows I know he knows what he has to do! Is there some primal expectation that if men act shocked and dismayed enough then they won't have to do it??? Has that EVER worked? (Hmmm come to think of it I have backed down and just done things myself at times)
Please don't misunderstand. I love my husband and I appreciate men. I am a nurturer. I am happiest when I am helping someone else feel better. I get warm fuzzy feelings when I know my husband and others are content.
I am real glad I am a woman and I really appreciate men and our differences. I love being treated like a lady and I can't and don't want to imagine life without you guys and appreciate all the nice things you do.
I'm just sayin....what's up with the SHOCK factor? :)