Saturday, January 12, 2008
When A Man Loves a Woman
I have often commented in my posts and comments that I have a thing about eye contact. Our eyes can speak volumes. In those moments...no words are necessary. When it is passionate...it is a heart pumping, tingly experience. When eyes lock... whether close up or from across the room...where truly ...you only have eyes for each other. It's like everything and everyone surrounding you fade out and your the only ones. You don't have to speak. You don't have to say anything. You just know. And everything in you feels a pull toward the other as if you were two magnets, powerless to stop the inevitable...your coming together. And sometimes you can't...but you know...you do know. Everyone should be able to experience those moments.
I really enjoyed this movie and "When A Man Loves A Woman" is one of my favorite songs. I love how Anthony Garcia looks at Meg Ryan in this movie. You see it ALL in his eyes. The intensity and passion. And I love how Meg Ryan looks at him and they come together at the end.
Of course our eyes reflect many other emotions too. I have a close friend who has known me since I was 4 and she can always tell when I am up to something impish because she says my eyes dance...whatever that means. My older son has my temperament and can be quite the tease/prankster and I will just see this glint in his eye and I know. Maybe that is what she sees in me.
They say our eyes are the window to our soul and I think that is true. Even when we try to conceal things...they inevitably are reflected in our eyes and even spill over into our body language.
After being with someone for about 2 seconds the other day, I instantly knew something was wrong by looking at their eyes and overall countenance, but it was mostly the eyes. They didn't say a word but I immediately moved in closer and asked what was wrong. Sure enough it was something significant.
It is such a good feeling when you can turn to someone ...even a stranger and share a moment of mutual recognition to something going on...a validation of what you're feeling because they are too. And it is such a good feeling when you are feeling sad, rejected or misunderstood...to meet up with eyes filled with kindness and compassion or when feeling afraid...to meet eyes that are filled with compassion, strength and determination...helping you to feel safe by giving you a sense that they are in control and can handle the situation. And it's fun to see joy and gratitude in someone's eyes because you did an act of kindness for them. And when you doubt yourself...it is life giving to see the kind of faith in you, through their eyes... that tells you they will be your champion...breathing hope into you.
Of course when eyes lock it isn't only for romantic love. We lock eyes with another for all kinds of reasons, but when we do...there is a mutual intensity of shared emotion to whatever is going on. The eyes are reading each other and sending messages faster than words can be articulated.
I would like to think that when someone encounters me that they see good things in my eyes. I have been told there is a light in my eyes, so I think that is probably true most of the time. I hope so. :)
What message do your eyes convey?